Finding the Gifts of the Shadow

Imagine a résumé for your “shadow”—that unconscious part of us that holds all the stuff we deny, discount, disown, bury or pretend does not exist:

 

Vengeful, easily victimized, lazy, bad, untrustworthy. Excel at hopelessness and rage, expert on greed. Not creative. Never finish what I start. Stupid, a loner, damaged goods. Nurture murderous thoughts. Definitely unlovable.

 

No one likes to admit to a dark side—it can be a frightening and shocking experience to our self-image. We spend huge amounts of energy denying and repressing this unwanted inferior self.

 

What many of us don’t realize is that the shadow can be a helpful aspect of ourselves that holds the key to transformation—a loyal friend bearing the gifts of depth, integrity, vitality and wholeness—if we choose to meet it and love it.

 

“Perhaps all the dragons of our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once, beautiful and brave,” said poet Ranier Maria Rilke. “Perhaps everything terrible is in its deepest being something that needs our love.”

 

How the Shadow Develops

Many forces play a role in forming our shadow selves: parents, siblings, teachers, religious leaders and friends all have their part.

 

When little Elsie’s mother entered the hospital before the birth of twins, Elsie was suddenly left alone with a new nanny during the day and put to bed by her distant father.

 

When her overwhelmed mother and the newborn twins came home two months later, the toddler was not-so-subtly encouraged to “be independent” and a good big sister. Anger that erupted was quickly reprimanded.

 

Afraid that her parents would leave or stop loving her, Elsie learned not to rock the boat. She took care of herself, became a pleaser and kept her needs and feelings to herself.

 

The Shadow’s Gift Revealed

Today, the single mother still prefers to depend on herself, struggling with the amount of intimacy she is able to experience in her personal relationships. She smiles a lot and has trouble saying “No” to requests for help, works late into the night, and rarely takes a day for herself. She doesn’t “do” anger publicly, but at home, she sometimes explodes at her children.

 

Working to integrate these painful shadow elements into her conscious life is challenging, Elsie says. But doing so is helping her to stay in a deeply nurturing relationship, from which she would have fled earlier in her life.

 

“I’m realizing how much energy it has cost me to keep this stuff underground,” she says. “What I’m working on is saying ‘Yes’ more often to myself—and teaching others by example. And I silently cheer when my children tell me how mad they are!”

 

These, then, are the gifts of shadow work that can benefit each of us—and the world:

 

  • more genuine self-acceptance

 

  • fewer negative emotional eruptions during our daily lives

 

  • less guilt and shame associated with our negative feelings and actions

 

  • a clearer and more accurate picture of others (uncolored by shadow projections)

 

  • the opportunity to heal relationships through more honest self-examination.

 

What’s in Your Shadow?

Awareness of the shadow is always the first step towards the treasure box that lies within your shadow. But the elusive nature of the dark side can make it tricky to discover the content of your personal shadow. Here are some effective detective tools:

 

Examine your exaggerated negative feelings about others.

Look at the characteristics of the people in your life whose behavior pushes your buttons, at people you dislike or hate, at what irritates or angers you the most. When we are blind to our own shadow traits, we often “project” these traits onto others. We see in the other person something that is a part of ourselves, but which we fail to see in ourselves. It’s like a mirror.

 

Notice what you really admire in others. Perhaps, growing up, it was not acceptable to be powerful, creative, intelligent or empathetic. When we relegate these aspects of ourselves to the dark, we project this “greatness” onto others, not realizing that it is actually our own.

 

Examine others’ perceptions of you. When two or more people independently perceive a shadow trait in you, it is worth deeper exploration.

 

Examine your impulsive and inadvertent acts. A slip of the tongue or of behavior can sometimes be very revealing. So can “forgetting” to do something you agreed to or getting sleepy when it’s time to talk over a fight with your mate.

 

Consider your humor. Humor is often much more than meets the eye; in fact, what is said in humor is often a manifestation of shadow truth. For example, what hidden, inferior or feared emotions do dirty or racist jokes express? We can also use humor to shake loose repressed fears and feelings and take the bite out of embarrassment and shame.

 

Study your dreams. The shadow often appears in our dreams as a figure of the same sex whom we react to with fear, dislike or disgust. Observing this figure’s actions, attitudes and words can offer helpful identifying information.

 

Examine situations in which you feel humiliated. When we are possessed by strong feelings of shame or anger, or when our behavior is off the mark in some way, the shadow is erupting unexpectedly. Keep an “over-reaction diary.”

 

Observe your distractions. Do you work too many hours? Overeat? Numb your feelings with drugs or alcohol? What feelings are you avoiding?

 

Track down the inner critic and victim. Try writing the internal dialogue between the powerful, critical part of you that demands change and the weak part that apologizes and makes excuses. Both are voices of the shadow.

 

Ultimately, as author James Hillman says, the cure of the shadow is rooted in love. “How far can our love extend to the broken and ruined parts of ourselves, the disgusting and perverse?” he writes. “How much charity and compassion have we for our own weakness and sickness? How far can we build an inner society on the principle of love, allowing a place for everyone?”

So embrace your shadow and learn from it. Be aware of your reactions to people and events and know that you can change things. The shadow brings gifts. Receive them gratefully.

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Inspirations for the Body, Mind & Soul

I started writing an article for this month, but am inspired to share some of my favourite books with you instead. I’m imagining these books being added to your Christmas list or bought and read as you snuggle up under a blanket on a cold winter’s day. Some of these are recent books that I’ve read, some that I read awhile ago that I would reread over and over again; in no particular order. I would also recommend any book by these authors. Enjoy!

Embers by Michael Wagamese http://www.douglas-mcintyre.com/book/embers

This book came highly recommended and I understand why. Each page is rich with wisdom about life. It is written with a “meditation” on each page; personal reflections by one of Canada’s foremost First Nations authors. The old woman sounds like the Cailleach to me.

Norse Mythology by Neil Gaiman http://www.neilgaiman.com/works/Books/Norse+Mythology/

How well do you know the stories of the Norse Gods? How did Thor get his hammer? What about Odin? And what trouble is Loki up to now? This book is written with each chapter being a myth so it is easy to read and stop and start. I’ve been drawn to learn more about these Gods and Gaiman’s book is very accessible.

You Are The Universe by Deepak Chopra and Menas Kafatos https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Universe-Discovering-Matters/dp/0307889165

This book is not an easy read, but it is mind-blowing. It’s a great mix of science bridging to the spiritual world. All of us live in a participatory universe. “What these two great minds offer is a bold, new understanding of who we are and how we can transform the world for the better while reaching our greatest potential.”

The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer http://untetheredsoul.com/

Full of ways to develop your relationship with self this book helps you be free of limitations to find peace and freedom.

Yearning for the Wind by Tom Cowan https://www.amazon.ca/Yearning-Wind-Celtic-Reflections-Nature/dp/1577314115

This book is about the mystical pathways between the worlds and connects soul and nature. It is beautifully written, but must admit it took me awhile to read it since I would get altered with each turn of the page.

Anam Cara by John O’Donohue https://www.amazon.ca/Anam-Cara-Book-Celtic-Wisdom/dp/006092943X http://browseinside.harpercollins.ca/index.aspx?isbn13=9780060929435

Anam Cara is Gaelic for “soul friend.” This book of Celtic Wisdom touches on all themes of life and love and friendship through Irish stories. Such profound insights are in this book. “Anam Cara is a rare synthesis of philosophy, poetry and spirituality. This work will have a powerful and life-transforming experience for those who read it.”

The Mist-Filled Path by Frank MacEowen https://www.amazon.ca/Mist-Filled-Path-Celtic-Wanderers-Seekers/dp/1577312112/ref=pd_sim_14_2?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=FT54H4D5BAV631WAGT2J

Another teacher of Celtic spirituality explores traditions and myths and explains how we can use them today to reach our potential.

Animal Speak by Ted Andrews https://www.amazon.ca/Animal-Speak-Spiritual-Magical-Creatures/dp/0875420281

Animal Speak provides techniques for recognizing and interpreting the signs and omens of nature. Meet and work with animals as totems and spirit guides by learning the language of their behaviors within the physical world.”

E-Squared by Pam Grout  https://pamgrout.com/books-r-me-my-career-as-an-author/e-squared/

Includes 9 energy experiments that help prove your thoughts create your reality.

   Awakening to the Spirit World: The Shamanic Path of Direct Revelation by Sandra Ingerman & Hank Wesselman https://www.amazon.ca/Awakening-Spirit-World-Shamanic-Revelation/dp/1591797500/ref=pd_sim_14_3?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=FT54H4D5BAV631WAGT2J

To include a book by Sandra Ingerman I will include this book about shamanic spirituality .

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks https://www.amazon.ca/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361

Conquer your hidden fear and take your life to the next level. This book encourages everyone to step past their boundaries to really live their life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

For a bit of fiction:

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho http://www.harpercollins.ca/9780062315007/the-alchemist

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Powerful life lessons that help you improve your thoughts and your life. This book is all about living your dream and listening to the teachings along the way.

The Alchemyst: The Secrets of the Immortal Nicholas Flamel  + sequels by Michael Scott https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Alchemyst:_The_Secrets_of_the_Immortal_Nicholas_Flamel

These books are full of mythology, even more so than The Harry Potter series. They are easy reading teen fiction, but there are deep life themes if you are willing to look into these perspectives.

The Magic Strings of Frankie Presto by Mitch Albom http://www.harpercollins.ca/9780062294418/the-magic-strings-of-frankie-presto

Mitch Albom had me with Tuesdays with Morrie. His latest book has a larger life lesson that resonates with cosmic connections as Frankie travels through music history.

All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/All_the_Light_We_Cannot_See

A beautiful novel that is historical fiction.

Forests of the Heart by Charles de Lint https://www.sfsite.com/charlesdelint/forests-desc01.htm

This Canadian author writes mythic fiction in which supernatural worlds overlap with contemporary society.

 

Of course, there are so many more inspiring books out there and these are just a few. Happy Reading!

 

 

 

 

Creating What You Want in Life

Creating What You Want In Life

We all wish to live the life we really want. If that’s the case, why does it seem that so few of us actually do?

Creating the life we want should be easy, but for many reasons it isn’t. Sometimes we’re too busy working, paying bills or picking up kids to give it much thought. Sometimes we don’t know how to get clarity so we put it off until “later.” Or, perhaps, we have ignored what we really wanted and, instead, created a life that others wanted for us (or themselves) — ouch.

How to Create the Life You Want

If you aren’t living the life you want, how do you get back on track? How do you get clear on what you want? And how do you stay committed to it?

Here are some steps that can help you get started:

Clarity
Before getting what we want we must first know what that is. This may seem obvious but it trips up even the most intelligent people right out of the gate. Take out a blank sheet of paper and write “My Dream Life” at the top. List everything you want to have, do, be and share. From this list generate goals to help set you back on course.

Avoid the “Shiny New Object Syndrome”
It’s easy to lose momentum by getting distracted with new, exciting opportunities. Having clarity makes it easier to distinguish those opportunities that help move us forward from the ones that throw us off track.

The next time a new opportunity arises ask yourself, “How will this help me achieve my ultimate goal of “x”? If it doesn’t, you probably want to dismiss the opportunity and move on.

Redefine Failure
People who focus on the destination as opposed to the journey also tend to be more critical of their failures. When you enjoy the process along the way, it’s easier to appreciate the end result — whether you consider it a “success” or “failure.”

The next time you do experience failure, however, reframe it. Consider that you have just learned how not to do something, and then acknowledge yourself for what you’ve learned.

Give in to Your Primal Instincts
Craving new challenges is hard-wired into our DNA. If it weren’t, we never would have left the cave, invented the wheel or flown to outer space. Ignoring this primal code over the long term can lead to disappointment. So how do you happily succumb to this urge? With more clarity and structure.

Create a list of things you haven’t done yet, but want to do. Be specific and remember the three, guaranteed “no fail” rules when it comes to goal setting:

  1. Write it down. 2. Write it down. 3. Write it down.

Putting your list in writing transforms it from a desire into a personal contract with yourself.

Go Guilt-Free
Taking time to care for ourselves, guilt-free, is difficult for many people. Sometimes it feels as though things will fall off the rails if we “let go.” But when we do let go, something amazing happens: the earth still spins — people find a way to manage without us. Taking time off leaves us feeling refreshed and makes us better workers, parents, spouses and citizens.

Plus, going guilt-free can be contagious.

As with anything worthwhile, there is no quick fix when it comes to designing and building the life you want. However, these steps can help guide you along your path to living the life you want…and loving the life you live.

 

Sometimes living the life that you want means you need more Balance in Your Life.

How to Strike the Ideal Balance of Work and Life

So You Can Be More Productive and Stress-Free

Finding the right balance of your personal and professional life is one of the most common complaints of people of all walks of life.

The fact is however, finding balance is one thing.  Maintaining it is much, much harder.

Being able to “keep all your plates spinning” is almost an art form, and there is so much riding on your success.

By keeping a quality work-life balance, you will experience a feeling of satisfaction, as will those around you, including colleagues, peers, employees, bosses and loved ones.  But let that balance slip, even briefly, and it could have devastating consequences.

So we’re going to do something about it.

Announcing a free self-coaching program called Finding Balance, Reclaim Your Time and Live a More Fulfilling Life. All you need to do is sign up for my newsletter and it is your’s free. This program includes just the right mix of tools, resources and advice that will have you feeling better about the task of balancing your work and life.

You’ll be well equipped to manage your home and work life more confidently and elegantly.  You’ll have the tools and the wisdom to free up your valuable time and accomplish more, making you and those around you very happy. This program is in short sections, ready for you to take on one at a time.

Just imagine what it would be like if your life was in balance.  Think about how much more productive and relaxed you could be, and how much more your relationships will improve.

 

 

 

In this program of Finding Balance, you will:

  • Learn the true definition of work-life balance and what that means for you.
  • Examine and assess the balance between work and life in your own life right now.
  • Create a vision of your ideal balanced life.
  • Understand and identify the most common inner obstacles to work-life balance.
  • Understand and identify the most common outer obstacles to work-life balance.
  • Identify some small, simple changes you can make that will make a BIG difference.

 

You can easily acquire these skills—all you have to do is read the program and do the activities.

Plus here’s the best part – this information is absolutely free!

Although what you receive here is really priceless, we are giving it to you!  All you have to do is to sign up for Wanda’s newsletter at https://wandadavis.ca/.

Sign up now to get on the list for this incredibly useful information on the importance of work-life balance. Click here! to sign up to receive the free self-coaching program, Finding Balance.

 

New Book Release: Are You the Missing Piece?

New bestseller, Are YOU The Missing Piece? is an invaluable resource to daily inspiration.

Titled Are YOU The Missing Piece, the book challenges the reader to think and initiate a change not only in their personal life, but in their professional life also. Most recent in the series of #1 best-selling books published by Winterton’s publishing company Expert Insights Publishing, the journal is dubbed a must read for all young entrepreneurs.

 

 

The journal accumulates priceless advice and knowledge from people who broke the barriers and used their creativity in order to find immense success in their personal lives and professions. Taking the readers to a sacred and personal space, each of the experts in this book offers advice that is extremely intimate and exclusive. Throughout the years, these people have used their own hardships and experiences as a receptacle for inspiration and empowerment.

 

Are YOU The Missing Piece will urge the readers to find power and inspiration within themselves. Only by filling in the missing piece can one truly live a fulfilling life where no opportunity is missed. All advice in this cutting-edge journal will ultimately help the readers in facing personal/professional challenges with courage and resilience.

 

The valuable nuggets of wisdom in this book come from a range of experts.

 

Are YOU The Missing Piece? Journal is now available on Amazon.com. http://www.amazon.ca/dp/B07691ZFKD

 

Living and Loving from Gratitude

Living and Loving from Gratitude

The season of Thanksgiving reminds us to be thankful for family, food and health, for however much we have at that moment.

Be joyful even when you have considered all the facts.” —Wendell Berry

Jennifer has recently been through a painful divorce and she’s not sleeping well. She’s having difficulties with her children, who blame her for the divorce. Her work life is rocky as well, and sometimes she’s unsure if she’s in the right career.

What she thinks: Yes, life is rough right now, but every life has difficult times. Really, I am so grateful to be alive, for my children, for my home, my good health, all that I have. 

Robert has lots of everything—a nice apartment in the city, a well-paying job, new car, nice clothes. But he didn’t get that last promotion at work. His last vacation was a disappointment, and no matter how hard he tries, he just can’t save money.

What he thinks: I just don’t understand why things are going wrong. It just doesn’t seem fair when I work so hard. People don’t appreciate me and I deserve better than this.

Robert’s approach is about holding a grievance—about what’s missing or wrong. Jennifer’s is about being grateful for all you have.

Gratitude isn’t a new idea; most spiritual practices and philosophies emphasize gratitude and compassion for others. But in recent years gratitude has shifted from being an idea to a concrete tool that people can use to become happier and healthier. This practice focuses on appreciating what others have done for you and de-emphasizes being angry or blaming others for your problems.

“When we develop a sense of appreciation for those around us and cultivate a sense of gratitude for life itself, we are relieved of the burden that comes with seeing ourselves as ‘victims,’” writes Greg Krech in Gratitude, Grace and the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection.

Krech calls this state of appreciation “grace,” a term used in many religions. However, grace as a practice is not a belief as much as a shift in thinking. Or as Krech puts it: “It’s the difference between seeing life as an entitlement and seeing it as a gift.”

However it is practiced, gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Yes, pain and injustice and cruelty exist in this world. But when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. We often feel more energized to reach out and help others; we feel we have some power to positively affect our world. This again leads to a feeling of well-being…and gratitude. It’s a self-sustaining cycle!

In her book Radical Gratitude, author and speaker Ellen Vaughn tells the story of a soldier in Vietnam, imprisoned as a POW for seven years. When he returned to the United States, he was startled at the small things people complained about. He decided then he would never stop being grateful for everything in his life, no matter how difficult.

Of course, most of us don’t have such extreme experiences to help us count our blessings. In their book Seasons of Grace: The Life-Giving Practice of Gratitude, authors Alan Jones and John O’Neil write that practicing gratitude can be as simple as writing a thank you note, working in the garden, walking on the beach aware of nature’s gifts, telling someone you love what you appreciate about him/her. According to them, it’s even more than what you do, it’s the attitude with which you do it.

Consider the following exercise for putting gratitude into action in our relationships with people close to us, whether they be spouses, friends, children or business partners:

  • Find 10 minutes to tell the person what specifically you appreciate about him/her.
  • It may help to ask yourself a few questions in advance: What were some of the highlights—the fun times when you laughed—when you first met? What specific qualities do you admire about him/her? What efforts by this other person have helped your relationship make it through difficult times?
  • Share the results with the person, requesting that he or she not make judgments or negate any of the appreciative comments.

This simple exercise helps you stop taking the important people in your life for granted and can effectively reawaken an awareness of the gifts of your relationship with that individual.

Now try it on yourself!

To help you on your gratitude journey, here are 8 ways to have more gratitude in your daily life.

  1. Don’t be picky: appreciate everything. …
  2. Find gratitude in your challenges. …
  3. Practice mindfulness. …
  4. Keep a gratitude journal. …
  5. Volunteer…
  6. Express yourself. …
  7. Spend time with loved ones. …
  8. Improve your happiness in other areas of your life.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/womensmedia/2016/07/08/8-ways-to-have-more-gratitude-every-day/#67258af21d54

I really recommend keeping a gratitude journal. Every day write at least 3 things that you are grateful for. If you write these just before going to bed you fall asleep with that feeling of gratitude which will attract more of that feeling into your life. It is all about having the energy of gratitude every day. The more you feel grateful the more you will have to feel grateful for.

Cultivate your attitude of gratitude!

 

 

Author’s content used under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

How Balanced do You Feel?

Maintaining Balance Is an Inside and Outside Job

If trying to maintain balance in your life makes you sometimes feel like Terrifico, the Terrified Tightrope Walker in the Circus of Life, working without a net while the crowd below holds their breath in anticipation of a slip, you’re not alone. These days almost all of us have so many demands placed on our time and energy, life can feel like a three-ring circus. And if you’re not up there on the tightrope, you’re down on the ground in the midst of tigers and lions, in charge of keeping a couple of dozen plates spinning in air.

Maintaining balance isn’t easy. It requires holding steady with the many responsibilities that are a normal and everyday part of life: home, family, friends and work, while at the same time recognizing and fulfilling personal needs and wants. Finding and maintaining balance when life can be so complicated and demanding is both an inside and outside job.

 

Inside—Only you can take care of yourself.

Consider how well you take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. Do you eat healthfully and exercise regularly? Do you get check-ups and take preventative precautions? Do you set aside personal, quiet time for yourself? Do you make time to enjoy nature and art, filling yourself up again and again?

Self care also includes time for meditation or energy healing sessions. Get a treatment or learn a technique to treat yourself.

Outside—Reaching outside yourself gives meaning.

Think about how you reach outside yourself for sharing and giving meaning to your life. Do you spend quality time with family and friends? Do you give back to life through your time, energy and experience? Contributing to the larger world provides connection and purpose.

Confused where to start? Personal Coaching helps clarify your direction and helps you determine what areas require more growth.

Balance—The key to a rich and fulfilling life.

To discover how well balanced your life is, keep a log of how you spend your time. In a little notebook you can carry with you, write down the hours you spend under the broad headings: “for me” and “for others.” Also make notes of requests for your time (from family members, from coworkers or professional obligations). Include “requests” from your physical and emotional self: “I wish I could take time to take a walk today.” Or “Gee, I’d love to take a nap.”

 

Also jot down your feelings about the time you’re putting in. Do you resent the responsibilities at home? Do you feel like you never get to do what you want to do? Do you rearrange your time, taking away from what you’d planned to do for yourself in order to do something for others? How does that feel? Honestly?

 

After a week or two, you can expect to have some pretty clear messages on where there is balance in your life and where there is not. You might also come to see what’s important to you and how you can make changes in your life that will create a life of health, well-being and joy—a balanced life.

 

 

 

 

Author’s content used  under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

Are You Living Your Own Life?

Fulfillment in life is related to how well you are living in alignment with what’s truly important to you. Do your decisions emerge from the essence of who you are—not from who you think you should be? Take this quiz to see how well you are living a life that is of your own making.

  1. I have spent time thinking about what’s important to me, and I can articulate those things.
  2. While I have been influenced by my parents, teachers, society and other outside forces, I have not simply adopted their values and beliefs. My own values and beliefs come from deep inside.
  3. I am not easily swayed by others’ opinions. I know my own mind.
  4. In order to remain open and flexible, I am willing to re-examine my opinions and beliefs to determine whether something is still true for me. I am interested in other points of view.
  5. My spouse/partner is a good match for me. We share in a way that pleases me and have an ideal amount of separate space. We don’t have to agree on everything.
  6. I chose my occupation, or choose to remain in it, because it most closely utilizes my skills, strengths and passions.
  7. I also choose my friends. I don’t go along with a friendship that doesn’t feel right just because that person pursued me.
  8. Any spirituality I practice feeds my soul.
  9. I have aspirations. I spend time thinking about them and taking action toward those that are most important to me.
  10. Anyone looking at my life from the outside would see what I value.
  11. When I or a family member is sick, I listen to the appropriate health care provider. If the advice doesn’t feel right, I get a second opinion.
  12. On the rare occasion when I let someone break a boundary or persuade me to do something I don’t want to do, as soon as I’m aware of it, I take steps to stop and correct the situation.

If you answered false more often than true, you may wish to clarify what is truly important to you and then find ways to bring your life into greater alignment with those values. Please don’t hesitate to call if you’d like support in doing this.

Understanding your own Essence is paramount to living your own life. Energy work is a great way to deepen that understanding of self. Not feeling balanced with all areas of your life? Which areas desire more growth so that you are living to your full potential? Living your own life means you are choosing what you wish and not just following along with what others want for you or from you. Value yourself. Ask questions and choose your possibilities. Only you can do so.

 

 

Author’s content used under license, © 2011 Claire Communications

 

How is Your Spiritual Health? May not be about what you are thinking.

What is Spiritual Health?

Spirituality means a lot of things to different people. A spiritual person cares about other people, animals and the planet, but most of all s/he cares about her/himself. And part of this loving thyself is understanding that everything is connected (Oneness) and a person may desire to figure out how s/he fits into the world and have that sense of connection to something bigger than ourselves. This may involve a search for the meaning of life from the person’s perspective.

So our spiritual self may include spiritual practices of faith and belief to feel connected to this something bigger. As part of loving ourselves, our spiritual self also includes the things we love and desire in life, our passions, joys and longings. We all desire to Belong. It is this inner desire to learn more about ourselves and our connection to the world that spurs us on with glee and delight.

However, in certain times of our life we may feel defeated. We may not know where we fit in, don’t feel connected or feel shunned. Perhaps you can’t figure out your contribution to the bigger picture and are unsure of your purpose in life. Maybe you realize that you are not focusing on the area of spirituality enough and are not feeling balanced, especially if things like work stress or physical ailments are taking up a lot of your time and energy. I loved the term spiritual starvation coined by a colleague, Renate Donnovan (Www.emergetosuccess.com). “When the Spiritual Aspect shatters, it creates a rejection of Life. The system begins to shut down. There is no purpose, we lose the will to continue, and we can even experience despair. Spiritual starvation is at the root of many of our problems. It is crucial that we feed our souls — daily if possible.”

The Coaching Wheel of Life includes the following areas of life: Career, Relationships with Partner and Family, Finances, Personal Growth, Physical Health, Emotional/Mental Health and Spiritual Health. In what ways are you working on your Spiritual Health? If you were to rate this category from 1 to 10, with 10 being very satisfied, where would you fall? Are any areas, in particular, feeling chaotic or missing entirely? In this world of fast moving technology, what are you most connected to? Perhaps you have lost that feeling of being connected to yourself, to who you really are.

You can regain that feeling of being balanced and connected through coaching and energy healing. Coaching helps you gain clarity on what is needed (perhaps understanding your purpose), determine the steps to get there and then celebrate the successes along the way to reaching the goals. Energy work balances your energy field, not just in a physical sense, but also mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Energy work may provide you with that connection to yourself as part of the larger universe and that feeling of Oneness. It also helps release from the subconscious mind or the body anything that may be holding you back from accomplishing your goals, all those thoughts, beliefs and emotions about money, time, health, relationships, etc.

So feed your spiritual self. Your inner self will be grateful.