Living Your Life Well

Optimizing Your Life Energy

 As the author of more than 30 books, including the bestselling series Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, Dr. Richard Carlson helped millions of people create lives of greater peace, connection and caring by focusing on the more important things in life. The last chapter of one of his books is titled “Live This Day As If It Might Be Your Last. It Might Be!” Ironically and sadly, Carlson died unexpectedly at age 45 on a plane flight to New York.

 How better to drive home his point?

We really don’t know how long we have in this life. Yet, we spend so much of our life energy mulling over what’s in the past or worrying about what the future holds. We get caught up in the minutia of life, losing sight of the bigger picture of what’s actually important.

How much energy would we free up by living more in the now? How can we optimize the time we have? Here are some ideas:

Clarify your values and create a personal mission statement. The clearer you are about what’s deeply important to you (your values) and who you are at your core, the more likely you will succeed in living your life “on purpose.” Your mission statement is the guidepost for knowing if you’re going in the right direction and provides information to put you back on course if you’re not acting in alignment with your values and mission.

Let the past be in the past. How often do you spend living in the past? Do you re-live old memories over and over, or think of clever things you should have said? Do you wish things were like they were in the “good ol’ days?” Whether it’s letting go of your anger at the driver who cut you off just this morning, or regretting the loss of your first love, living in the past keeps you from fully experiencing your life right here, right now.

Release worrying about the future. Mark Twain said, “I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” So much of what we worry about never happens, yet we spend countless hours and huge amounts of energy battling future problems. Notice how much time you spend in the future and gently remind yourself to return to the present. What action can you take right now that will move you forward?

Keep things in perspective. It’s usually our attachment to things being a certain way that leads to frustration. Practice accepting “what is” if you want to experience a greater sense of peace. Everything that happens is our teacher. We might not have chosen each of our lessons, and don’t necessarily have to enjoy them; however, if we choose the perspective that things happen “for us” and not “to us,” life will be a much more growth-filled, joyous ride!

What are Your Gifts?

Sedona is a magical place. First, being amongst the gorgeous scenery of the red rocks was awesome. Second, feeling the energies of the area was an experience not to be missed. Before the trip we had arranged several guided tours. We heard often from these tour guides, and truly believed, that you did not have to be right at a vortex to experience the energies of Sedona; it really is the whole area.

What is a Vortex? The area of Sedona has four main energy vortexes of subtle energy. These vortexes are swirling centers of subtle energy coming out from the surface of the earth. It is said that the subtle energy interacts with who a person is inside and resonates with and strengthens the Inner Being of each person. The earth subtle energy is similar to the subtle energy that operates in our chakras. Just being near these vortexes provides an uplifting experience and has positive effects.

It was amazing to see the Juniper tree responses to the vortex energy and the twist of the trunks and branches. The lines of growth follow a slow helical spiral along the length of the branch. Hiking amongst the rocks in the areas of the vortexes is an exhilarating experience. I found myself fascinated by the dry waterfalls, areas through which water would be rushing during a rain storm. There is also fantastic shopping for jewelry, crystals and spiritual objects.

One stop that I really appreciated was the Amitabha Stupa, a physical embodiment of the Buddha’s enlightened mind with prayers for peace. This is well worth the visit. And just behind the Stupa is a medicine wheel at which we participated in ritual and ceremony. I also did my first sweat lodge in Sedona, which was also a wonderful experience. However, I must admit that with all the insights I was processing during my trip it is difficult to remember it all.

One tour guide, Joseph White Wolf, explained that the beauty that we see in the rocks of Sedona reflects our own inner beauty. He also was the one who said people come to Sedona to discover their own gifts. This trip truly clarified my purpose and gifts. Maybe a trip to Sedona will be in your future. I know I will be going back again soon.

What is a Life Coach?

What is a Life Coach? A coach is a trained professional who has the skills that help individuals and organizations create positive changes and new possibilities. A coach helps the client define the steps that are needed to achieve both short term and long term goals. A coach listens and asks questions and the client asks him/herself more questions. And as we say in Access, asking questions is key to opening up your awareness to the possibilities.

A coach can help you define your goals, prioritize them and then set out action steps to reach those goals. But the most important part is a coach keeps you accountable. This creates the results. This goal can be a specific project or a big change in the client’s life. We help sort out the challenges and how to overcome them. Thus anyone could be working with a life coach. And those goals can be in any area: health, fitness, career, finances, relationships or spiritual, etc.

Reaching those goals does not have to be hard. Perhaps just having someone encouraging you and holding you accountable gets you moving forward. Things don’t have to be a struggle. Coaching is about empowering the individual to believe in him/herself and be in the mindset that the goal is easily obtainable. Life is all about ease and joy. Do you feel that way now?

Coaching is about reprogramming your subconscious mind to eliminate those limiting beliefs that are holding you back. Stay tuned for future workshops and talks explaining just how influential your subconscious mind is and you don’t even know how it is controlling your life. Using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to change the patterns of thinking and behaving creates permanent change and eliminates negative states.

With or Without Energy Work

And the bonus that I can offer is creating a coaching program with energy work to help further release of those limiting beliefs and thoughts and help keep your stress reduced and provide that feeling of well-being. How can it get any better than that? So Ignite the Possibilities with Wanda. https://wandadavis.ca/life-coaching/

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Are You Grateful for Clarity?

Are You Grateful for Clarity?

"Image courtesy of Dan/ FreeDigitalPhotos.net".
“Image courtesy of Dan/ FreeDigitalPhotos.net”.

Feeling grateful has been something that I have been feeling everyday, especially in the last while. I have been practicing more mindful meditation of as late since I kept feeling the need to slow down and be more aware of things. In this type of meditation one is aware of body sensations and any emotions that arise, a great way to stay in the present moment. I’ve been asking for clarity on many levels, whereas physically I’ve been waiting to learn when I would be having cataract surgery. Since I am not yet 50 years of age, the eye doctors keep asking me what head trauma I’ve experienced; none that I can remember. After a 7 month long wait to see the surgeon I learned that the cataract in my right eye was close to being severe enough that I was on the verge of losing my license. No wonder I have been avoiding driving at night in the last months. But I was grateful that cataract surgery is a fairly simple surgery in this day and age with a good chance of success. I was scheduled for surgery in December and was thinking that sight would be a great Christmas gift. On Oct. 18, date of the last full moon and a day on which I was teaching a Reiki class, I received the message saying that there was a cancellation the next week. The shift of energy that occurred for me was tremendous with a great feeling of joy. I felt so much lighter and excited with the possibilities. 

The eye surgery went well (with a little energy help from friends) and I felt so excited during the procedure. Although my brain is still getting used to this interim vision with one eye being near sighted and the newly done eye now far sighted, I am so grateful for the clarity. I am gaining clarity of physical vision plus clearness at other levels of my life. Although I can’t wait to get my other eye done (hopefully there is another cancellation before December), I am still processing what I’ve learned. Even though I will be very dependent on reading glasses after these eye surgeries, I will be forever grateful for the gift of sight. Have a listen to my “theme song”: http://youtu.be/FscIgtDJFXg

IMG_2079IMG_2080I have also been participating in the Women Together Life Coaching Program. I continue to learn about myself and strive to reach my goals in many areas of my life. The Personal Growth Event that I recently participated in was Equine Facilitated Learning at Full Circle Ranch with The Coaching Room. Working with the energy of the horses we endeavoured to stay in the present moment, as that is how the horses exist (a reminder about mindfulness). Horses mirror our true selves and feelings. Horses are always thinking about whether they are safe, just as we humans have the need to feel safe in our environment. We had a discussion about vulnerability and how the horses are vulnerable but strong; a good lesson for us about how it is okay to be vulnerable. Definitely a lesson I am working on. Oh, and did I mention how the one horse licked my hand? In shamanic work the transfer of body fluids such as saliva give the gift of the energy of that animal so I received horse medicine. Horse traditionally brings the energy of freedom and I’ve worked with horse shamanically for many years so it was a great experience to work with horse in ordinary reality. Horse

So as I gain clarity in many aspects of my life through circumstances, meditation, life coaching and energy work I am forever grateful for the opportunities to learn and to grow. Make sure that you slow down to appreciate the nuances of life that arise.

Here’s an article that echoes some of my advice:

You Were Born To Shine

Let your light shineOver time, fear, exhaustion & shame can dim the brightest of lights, and that is why we must, at all times do what we can to keep that flame inside burning bright, choose the path of light and love, and allow our brilliance to be seen.

Fortunately, there are plenty of tools that you can use to rekindle your spark every day, and here are just a few to help you out.

  1. 1. Express your gratitude daily.

Tell the people around you that you appreciate them. Give thanks for the food you eat and the roof that you sleep under. Smile. Gratitude magnifies your feelings of goodwill, helping you stay focused on the good stuff. 

        2. Exercise often.

Sweating and moving for just 20 minutes a day has been clinically shown to improve your mood & boost your health. Try a yoga class, ride your bike around town, or go for a swim, and you’ll easily chase away the grumps. 

         3.      Meditate every morning.

Spending time in silence reconnects you with your source of self-awareness, self-assuredness & happiness. It’s also been shown to greatly reduce stress & improve communication. 

What can YOU do to shine a little brighter TODAY?

The Book Nook with Sarah

I quite enjoyed being interviewed by Sarah Hilton this morning for her Rogers show,

The Book Nook with Sarah. Stay tuned for the show to be aired this fall.

We discussed my book Getting Well: Mind, Body & Spirit and Healing Your Energy Body.

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Ways to Lead by Example at Home, Work or Play

Top 10: Ways to Lead by Example

At Home, Work or Play

by Wanda Davis

Good leaders must lead by example. Through their actions, which are aligned with what they say, they become a person others want to know and to follow. A leader is a person other people want to associate with, listen to and trust. Do you hope others think of you as a “good person”? One that they would admire, call on for some advice or one they would buy something from? Are you a leader in your family as a parent or as a caregiver for an elderly parent? How about patriotism (it is Canada Day weekend) or environmentalism or citizenship? What values do you hold true to yourself and want to portray to the world?

When leaders say one thing but do another, they erode trust, a critical element of productive leadership. You can even think of it as being a leader in your own life. How do you want to portray yourself to the world?

Here are 10 of the dozens of ways to lead by example. And when I say lead,

1. Take responsibility. Blame costs you your credibility, keeps others on the defensive and ultimately sabotages real growth.

2. Be truthful. Inaccurate representation affects everyone. Show that honesty really IS the best policy.

3. Be courageous. Walk through fire (a crisis) first. Take calculated risks that demonstrate commitment to a larger purpose. This does not have to be done alone, you can ask for help. 

4. Acknowledge failure. It makes it OK for others to do the same and defines failure as part of the process of becoming extraordinary.

5. Be persistent. Try, try again. Go over, under or around any hurdles to show that obstacles don’t define you.

6. Create solutions. Don’t dwell on problems; instead be the first to offer solutions and then ask your family, friends and associates for more.

7. Listen. Ask questions. Seek to understand. You’ll receive valuable insights and set a tone that encourages healthy dialogue.

8. Delegate liberally. Encourage an atmosphere in which people can focus on their core strengths.

9. Take care of yourself. Exercise, don’t overwork, take a break. A balanced group of people, mentally and physically, is a successful team. Model it, encourage it, support it! 

10. Roll up your sleeves. Like Alexander the Great leading his men into battle, you’ll inspire greatness amongst your peers.

“Be the Change You Want to See in the World”. Ghandi

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