The Attitude of Gratitude

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Change Your Life For The Better With Gratitude
Most people are unaware of the amazing power that gratitude has and how it can transform their lives for the better. When you practice gratitude each day you will change your life very quickly and be amazed at the transformation that it makes. In this article we will provide you with four examples of how gratitude can make your life a whole lot better.
 
Other articles on gratitude will not discuss all of these things. We want you to have the complete inside track on how gratitude can transform your life so that you will be inspired to make this significant change in your life. So please read these four examples and then get working on your attitude of gratitude right away.

Use Gratitude to get into a happier mood
It is very easier to get into a bad mood if you do not have an attitude of gratitude. If someone has done something to upset you then rather than getting angry at them why not express some gratitude towards them instead? We appreciate that this is not an easy thing to do and will require some practice but it will certainly be worth it.
 
You will find when you do this that your mood will change from a negative angry state to a happier state. This is especially useful in your relationship with your partner. Don’t let things that they do to annoy you put you in a bad mood and get into an argument. Instead think how grateful you are and tell them this.

Use Gratitude to improve your Relationship
The number of break ups and divorces in the world today seems to be rising at an alarming rate. People tend to fly off the handle with their partner over the smallest of things. If you are someone that likes to criticize your partner for all of their failings then change your approach and show them gratitude instead. It will be easy for you to find things that you are grateful about your partner when you put your mind to it. Tell your partner why you are so grateful to have them in your life and make them feel great. Notice how their face changes and the words that they say in reply. Gratitude will certainly help you to make your relationships stronger.

You can be a better Parent with Gratitude
If you have children then it is pretty easy for you to become frustrated with them. They do things that you don’t want them to do and this leads to anger and disappointment. In this situation most parents will express their disappointment to their kids which just creates a negative atmosphere. When you criticize your kids they are going to feel really bad about what they have done. So think about why you are truly grateful to have your children and tell them this. This will change their mood straight away and everyone will feel better for the experience.

Gratitude helps you to cope with a Tragedy
If you experience a tragedy in your life such as losing a loved one, then think about the people that are left in your life and express your gratitude for this. We all have to face tragedies in life at some time or another and the most important thing is that you do not let this totally overcome you.
By expressing your gratitude for the people that you still have in your life you will be more positive about moving forward. Use these amazing benefits to transform your life for the better through an attitude of gratitude.

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The Major Benefits Of Gratitude
A lot of people have heard that adopting an attitude of gratitude can transform their lives for the better but don’t believe that this is true. They are not prepared to make the change to a gratitude based life because they don’t see the rewards for doing this as being worthwhile.
Well in this article we will discuss the major benefits of gratitude and hope that this will convert you to developing an attitude of gratitude. We hope that you will see that these benefits are truly life changing and that making the transition to gratitude is totally worth it.

Gratitude makes you Happier
Nobody can be happy 24 hours a day but when you have an attitude of gratitude you will be happier a lot more than if you don’t have one. How does this work? Well when you appreciate the things that you have in your life you will remove yourself from the “wanting” spiral.
Each time that you think about things in your life to be grateful for, and express your gratitude, then you will feel happy. You can do this several times a day there are no limits. Contrast this to someone who is constantly craving new things in their life. They are not going to be happy very often.

You will become an Optimist
Optimism is a great thing. It transforms your thinking from negative to positive. It gives you hope for the future and you will love the transformation. When you are a pessimist all you see is doom and gloom. You are scared of the future and what it will bring. Your life is controlled by events that happen around you rather than by you.
Optimism does not mean that you just blindly accept everything. What it does mean is that you are able to see opportunities all around you and that you have the confidence that your future is looking bright. If you had anxiety about your future before then optimism will help significantly with this.

Problems will not Overwhelm you
We all have to face problems in our lives and overcome them. For some people even the smallest problems can overwhelm them. For others the really big problems stress them out and they become very anxious. Most people have a very negative attitude towards problems that they face in their lives.
With an attitude of gratitude you will be able to see the good in everything. You will see problems as an opportunity for you to grow. For the larger problems it is a chance for you to learn and do things that you haven’t before. You accept that problems are a part of life and you believe that they will help you to grow as a person.

Physical Health Benefits
A lot of research studies have shown that people that have an attitude of gratitude strengthen their immune system which leads to all other kinds of physical health benefits. With a stronger immune system you will be able to fight off sickness and have the energy to keep going when others have to stop.

Mental Health Benefits
Gratitude is good for your mental health as well. With an attitude of gratitude you will prevent stress and if it does happen then you will deal with it a lot easier. Because expressing gratitude makes you happy it will release hormones that will brighten your mood as well.
 
With an attitude of gratitude one can keep their mindset hopeful. Don’t despair for what can’t be. Be thankful for what you are able to do. 

What are You Hoping For?

Hoping is Not a Hopeless Endeavor

“Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.” —Anonymous

Having a healthy dose of hope can be motivating and inspiring. It keeps people focused on what’s ahead instead of what’s in the past. It can also help keep the focus on possibilities, and reframe obstacles as opportunities.

For some, however, being hopeful goes hand-in-hand with feeling naïve or foolish when things don’t work out as planned. They would rather not have hope at all if it means later disappointment.

But for others, having hope doesn’t mean living in denial of life’s difficulties; it simply reminds them there are better times ahead.

The definition of Hope is the feeling of wanting something to happen and thinking that it could happen. Any person may hope for themselves or another in a multitude of situations concerning safety or compassion to success. The key is to how to have hope when one is not sure what type of future to think about. When one is motivated and inspired to have hope, one can focus on the future and not dwell in the past.

The cultivation of hope (a work in progress for some since it is a learned skill) brings the belief that change can happen for the better and one can better accept the present circumstances.

The Benefits of Hope
Research indicates that it’s more beneficial to have hope than not. Hopeful people tend to show more resilience when faced with difficulties. They have healthier lifestyle habits and, on the whole, are more successful, personally and professionally.
According to the Mayo Clinic, having a hopeful, positive attitude has health benefits as well. These include:
Increased life span
Reduced depression
Lowered levels of distress
Increased resistance to the common cold
Greater emotional and psychological well-being
Decreased risk of death from cardiovascular disease
Improved coping skills during difficulties/stress
In addition, people with hope typically have:
Meaningful long- and short-term goals
A plan to achieve those goals
Flexibility to find alternate ways to achieve goals when faced with obstacles
Positive self-talk

In other words, hope is good for well-being.

We humans are sometimes too inventive for our own good—we can envision a future course of action along with every potential catastrophe that could occur along the way. Don’t try to control the unknown. Being aware of everything that can go wrong often makes doing nothing—in an attempt to avoid failure or pain—seem like a viable option.
Cultivating hope, on the other hand, helps activate creativity and inventiveness and prompts us to solve the predicaments we face by taking action in spite of our fears.
Hope brings with it the belief that things can change for the better. Regardless of how dire things may seem, there is potential for a positive outcome.

An older definition of Hope is that of a feeling of trust. Trust that a hopeful presence will help yourself and  others be hopeful and be the best they can be. Learn to be in the present moment.
“Only love and the power of presence heals.” Jack Schwartz

Is It Possible to Be Too Hopeful?

It could be said that optimists have a healthy dose of hope while “extreme optimists” suffer from blinding hope. They want nothing to do with bad news.

Researchers at Duke University found that extreme optimists (you could call them “high-hopers”) don’t save money, don’t pay off credit cards and don’t make long-term plans, but they are more likely to remarry if divorced.

Moderation, as usual, is the key. The researchers also found that “moderate optimists” tend to:

Work harder
Work longer hours
Make more money
Save more money
Pay off credit cards

Being a moderate high-hoper doesn’t mean keeping your head in the sand when it comes to life’s occasional unpleasant circumstances. It just means keeping a positive attitude—believing the best will happen, not the worst. It is all about the mindset!

In other words, whether you expect the best or the worst from life, chances are that’s what you’ll get (P.S. Law of Attraction). Studies seem to suggest that being hopeful is a skill that can be learned. So whether you’re an extreme optimist, an extreme pessimist or somewhere in between, there is hope for us all.

People will understand that with hope they will gain Healing, be able to Overcome obstacles, see Possibilities and be Empowered! Having Hope is a human strength.

How Do You Show Resiliency?

Bounce Back: Developing Emotional Resilience

Major disruptions are a “gotcha” we all experience at one time or another in our lives. We get fired, laid off or passed over; a loved one dies, leaves or gets in trouble; a project stalls or gets cancelled. The list, unfortunately, is endless.

For some, the impact of these hard times is overwhelming. Recovery, if it comes at all, can be painfully slow. Others show resilience and are admirably able to glide through these times fairly easily, bouncing back to a normal life again quickly. Resilience—the strength required to adapt to change—acts as our internal compass so we can resourcefully navigate an upset.

When unexpected events turn life upside down, it’s the degree to which our resiliency comes into play that makes these “make-or-break” situations an opportunity for growth. The good news is that each of us has the capacity to reorganize our life after a disruption and to achieve new levels of strength and meaningfulness. Though it’s easy to feel vulnerable in the midst of chaos and uncertainty, life disruptions are not necessarily a bad thing because they help us grow and meet future challenges in our lives. It’s a lot like a bone that was once fragile or broken, and is now strong from being used.

So how can you become more resilient? Here’s a look at seven key characteristics of people who demonstrate resilience during life’s curve balls.

A Sense of Hope and Trust in the World
Resilient people rely on their belief in the basic goodness of the world and trust that things will turn out all right in the end. This positive attitude allows them to weather times when everything seems bleak and to look for and accept the support that is out there. This approach toward the world gives them the ability to hope for a better future.

Interpreting Experiences in a New Light
The ability to look at a situation in a new way (a skill called “reframing”) can minimize the impact of a difficult situation. Resilient people take a creative approach toward solving a problem, and don’t always use an old definition for a new challenge.

A Meaningful System of Support
One of the best ways to endure a crisis is to have the support of another person who can listen and validate your feelings. Knowing that others care and will come to our support decreases the feeling of isolation, especially when tackling a problem alone. It’s important to choose people you trust. Don’t be surprised if it takes several friends, each of whom can provide different kinds of support. Resilient people aren’t stoic loners. They know the value of expressing their fears and frustrations, as well as receiving support, coaching or guidance from friends, family or a professional.

A Sense of Mastery and Control Over Your Destiny
You may not be able to predict the future, but you can tackle a problem instead of feeling at the mercy of forces outside of your control. Resilient people know that ultimately their survival and the integrity of their life values depend on their ability to take action rather than remain passive. Tough times call for you to tap into your own sense of personal responsibility.

Self-Reflection and Insight
Life’s experiences provide fertile ground for learning. Asking yourself questions that invite introspection can open a door to new understanding and appreciation of who you are and what you stand for. Giving voice to your thoughts and feelings leads to insight and helps transform the meaning of a problem into something useful. Resilient people learn from life situations and do not succumb to punishing themselves because of decisions made in the past.

A Wide Range of Interests
People who show resilience in the face of adversity are those who have a diversity of interests. They’re open to new experiences and ideas. Because their lives are rich and varied, it’s easier for them to find relief from the single mindedness and worry that often accompany a crisis.

Sense of Humor
Have you ever had a wry laugh during a difficult situation? The ability to see the absurdity, irony, or genuine humor in a situation stimulates our sense of hope and possibility. Humor has both psychological and physical benefits in relieving stress because it encourages a swift change in your perception of your circumstances—and when your thoughts change, your mood follows.

When you look to improve these seven areas now—rather than when adversity pays a visit—you’ll be able to bounce back more quickly.

Also, people who hire a coach are looking for change and if you are looking for big change, sometimes things will be quite different in your life. If you are resilient you are able to navigate the new waters with much more ease.

And as a teacher it is often observed that teens and children are not necessarily taught the skills of resiliency at home any longer. Too often parents are quick to solve any problems for their kids and give them anything they ask for. Technology has made it an instant gratification world. Kids today need more coaching in the skills of resiliency.

When life throws you a curve ball rely on your inner core strength to get you through things. Whether that curve ball is a small hiccup in your day or a bigger life event, you need to be flexible and adjust your sails so that you keep on sailing. More than likely, as you reconsider your plans and goals you will be presented with a lot more possibilities. You may need to let go of your original expectations, not resist and accept the new changes. But in the long run you may find that the new changes surpass your original expectations.