What are You Hoping For?

Hoping is Not a Hopeless Endeavor

“Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.” —Anonymous

Having a healthy dose of hope can be motivating and inspiring. It keeps people focused on what’s ahead instead of what’s in the past. It can also help keep the focus on possibilities, and reframe obstacles as opportunities.

For some, however, being hopeful goes hand-in-hand with feeling naïve or foolish when things don’t work out as planned. They would rather not have hope at all if it means later disappointment.

But for others, having hope doesn’t mean living in denial of life’s difficulties; it simply reminds them there are better times ahead.

The definition of Hope is the feeling of wanting something to happen and thinking that it could happen. Any person may hope for themselves or another in a multitude of situations concerning safety or compassion to success. The key is to how to have hope when one is not sure what type of future to think about. When one is motivated and inspired to have hope, one can focus on the future and not dwell in the past.

The cultivation of hope (a work in progress for some since it is a learned skill) brings the belief that change can happen for the better and one can better accept the present circumstances.

The Benefits of Hope
Research indicates that it’s more beneficial to have hope than not. Hopeful people tend to show more resilience when faced with difficulties. They have healthier lifestyle habits and, on the whole, are more successful, personally and professionally.
According to the Mayo Clinic, having a hopeful, positive attitude has health benefits as well. These include:
Increased life span
Reduced depression
Lowered levels of distress
Increased resistance to the common cold
Greater emotional and psychological well-being
Decreased risk of death from cardiovascular disease
Improved coping skills during difficulties/stress
In addition, people with hope typically have:
Meaningful long- and short-term goals
A plan to achieve those goals
Flexibility to find alternate ways to achieve goals when faced with obstacles
Positive self-talk

In other words, hope is good for well-being.

We humans are sometimes too inventive for our own good—we can envision a future course of action along with every potential catastrophe that could occur along the way. Don’t try to control the unknown. Being aware of everything that can go wrong often makes doing nothing—in an attempt to avoid failure or pain—seem like a viable option.
Cultivating hope, on the other hand, helps activate creativity and inventiveness and prompts us to solve the predicaments we face by taking action in spite of our fears.
Hope brings with it the belief that things can change for the better. Regardless of how dire things may seem, there is potential for a positive outcome.

An older definition of Hope is that of a feeling of trust. Trust that a hopeful presence will help yourself and  others be hopeful and be the best they can be. Learn to be in the present moment.
“Only love and the power of presence heals.” Jack Schwartz

Is It Possible to Be Too Hopeful?

It could be said that optimists have a healthy dose of hope while “extreme optimists” suffer from blinding hope. They want nothing to do with bad news.

Researchers at Duke University found that extreme optimists (you could call them “high-hopers”) don’t save money, don’t pay off credit cards and don’t make long-term plans, but they are more likely to remarry if divorced.

Moderation, as usual, is the key. The researchers also found that “moderate optimists” tend to:

Work harder
Work longer hours
Make more money
Save more money
Pay off credit cards

Being a moderate high-hoper doesn’t mean keeping your head in the sand when it comes to life’s occasional unpleasant circumstances. It just means keeping a positive attitude—believing the best will happen, not the worst. It is all about the mindset!

In other words, whether you expect the best or the worst from life, chances are that’s what you’ll get (P.S. Law of Attraction). Studies seem to suggest that being hopeful is a skill that can be learned. So whether you’re an extreme optimist, an extreme pessimist or somewhere in between, there is hope for us all.

People will understand that with hope they will gain Healing, be able to Overcome obstacles, see Possibilities and be Empowered! Having Hope is a human strength.

How Much Joy Can You Stand?

How Much Joy Can You Stand?

Everyone has a dream. It may whisper to us in a still, small voice or it may have the volume and intensity of Martin Luthur King’s “I Have a Dream” speech. The problem is that not many of us are actually living our dream. But as Suzanne Falter-Barns says in her book, How Much Joy Can You Stand?, if we begin to nurture and pursue that dream, if we can manage to leap off the cliff and trust ourselves to fly, we will experience a fine, effortless joy like nothing else. “It may take a while to wade through all your resistance, fears, misperceptions and basic disbelief in yourself,” she says. “It may take far longer than you think it should. But if you can just keep going through the process, and trust yourself in a basic way not attempted before, the joy will be yours.” Test your joy quotient with this Thriving quiz.

(True/False)

1. Creativity doesn’t just belong to artistic types living in loft studios. It belongs to me and to every human. I AM creative!
2. I think of myself as someone who doesn’t just want what I want, but as someone who is going to get it.
3. I keep blank notebooks in several places for jotting down my ideas and inspirations, and a tape recorder for recording observations.
4. No matter how “uncreative,” sensible, logical and otherwise unimpulsive I might consider myself, if I have a pressing idea—a core desire—I’m going to express it.
5. My family, my community, my world all benefit from my pursuit of my dream.
6. Feeling vulnerable and insecure is part of the process of creating any dream. To see me through those times, I call on those who I know support my project, not those who might discourage my efforts.
7. I quiet my mind regularly, and when I do, creative ideas and inspirations often show up unannounced.
8. I look around my world—city streets or nature’s paths—for creative inspiration and sources of joy.
9. I anticipate unexpected twists of fate, chance encounters and unorthodox solutions.
10. It isn’t up to me what the world thinks of me. My job is to work on my dream and send it out there.
11. I make a regular habit of connecting with my wishes, and I’m not afraid to wish for too much. But rather than wish for personal success alone, I link my wishes to how they serve people.
12. I use affirmations—positive statements phrased in the present tense and repeated often—to calm any fears I identify as holding me back.
13. I know that false desires are accompanied by feelings that are anxious, grasping and withholding, whereas true heart’s desires are accompanied by feelings that are joyful, releasing and generous.
14. I make it a habit to do one scary thing and to do one thing differently every day.

If you answered “false” more often than “true,” you may be plugging up your joy channel.

Please don’t hesitate to call if you would like help clearing and reconnecting to your joy. Coaching can help you align with your joy and dreams. Or get an energy session to help release those blocks that are holding you back or can increase your creativity. There are so many possibilities. Make a choice.

What is a Life Coach?

What is a Life Coach? A coach is a trained professional who has the skills that help individuals and organizations create positive changes and new possibilities. A coach helps the client define the steps that are needed to achieve both short term and long term goals. A coach listens and asks questions and the client asks him/herself more questions. And as we say in Access, asking questions is key to opening up your awareness to the possibilities.

A coach can help you define your goals, prioritize them and then set out action steps to reach those goals. But the most important part is a coach keeps you accountable. This creates the results. This goal can be a specific project or a big change in the client’s life. We help sort out the challenges and how to overcome them. Thus anyone could be working with a life coach. And those goals can be in any area: health, fitness, career, finances, relationships or spiritual, etc.

Reaching those goals does not have to be hard. Perhaps just having someone encouraging you and holding you accountable gets you moving forward. Things don’t have to be a struggle. Coaching is about empowering the individual to believe in him/herself and be in the mindset that the goal is easily obtainable. Life is all about ease and joy. Do you feel that way now?

Coaching is about reprogramming your subconscious mind to eliminate those limiting beliefs that are holding you back. Stay tuned for future workshops and talks explaining just how influential your subconscious mind is and you don’t even know how it is controlling your life. Using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to change the patterns of thinking and behaving creates permanent change and eliminates negative states.

With or Without Energy Work

And the bonus that I can offer is creating a coaching program with energy work to help further release of those limiting beliefs and thoughts and help keep your stress reduced and provide that feeling of well-being. How can it get any better than that? So Ignite the Possibilities with Wanda. https://wandadavis.ca/life-coaching/

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Take Care of Yourself This Year — Remember Self-Care

How do you plan to take care of yourself this year? This may include physical ideas like diet and exercise, but think about how you take care ofTake a break yourself emotionally and mentally too. What do you include in your schedule for self-care? First of all, yes, you must plan for it. In our busy lives we often forget about ourselves as we take care of others in our lives, whether that includes parents, children or spouse. Before we know it another day is over and we sit numbly watching television because we are too tired to do anything else and fall into bed exhausted. So schedule some self-care into the calendar with the kid activities and grocery shopping. See the picture “50 Ways to Take a Break” for some ideas to look after yourself. Self-care may also include an energy treatment, a naturopath visit or spending time with friends or reading a book.

 

We need to take care of ourselves emotionally. Don’t do things that don’t feel right as mentioned in the picture “12 Steps to Self-Care”. Also speak your mind in a positive manner so that your feelings don’t stay submerged and eat away at you. Emotions and thoughts are energy and if you don’t release the emotions that cause you harm they may cause health concerns later on. And as the old saying goes, what goes around comes around. Radiate happiness, love, gratitude and joy to continually receive. The word radiate reminds me of Jack Johnson’s song by the same name. Check out the lyrics.

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Affirmation TreeSo instead of making a resolution that may be hard to keep, perhaps make an affirmation such as those found in the affirmation tree by Paul Foreman. See his website for more mindmap ideas for happiness or relaxation. Whether you call it an affirmation or inspiration or aspiration, keep yourself in mind and remember your self-care. Enjoy some quotes about self-care and especially read the poem about why you need to take care of yourself.

 

“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”

– Lucille Ball

 

He who has health, has hope; and he who has hope, has everything.

– Arabian Proverb

“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.”

– Karl Lagerfeld

 

”Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.”

– Christopher Germer

 

A Blessing for One Who Is Exhaunsted

When the rhythm of the heart becomes hectic,
Time takes on the strain until it breaks;
Then all the unattended stress falls in
On the mind like an endless, increasing weight,

The light in the mind becomes dim.
Things you could take in your stride before
Now become laborsome events of will.

Weariness invades your spirit.
Gravity begins falling inside you,
Dragging down every bone.

The ride you never valued has gone out.
And you are marooned on unsure ground.
Something within you has closed down;
And you cannot push yourself back to life.

You have been forced to enter empty time.
The desire that drove you has relinquished.
There is nothing else to do now but rest
And patiently learned to receive the self
You have forsaken for the race of days.

At first your thinking will darken
And sadness take over like listless weather.
The flow of unwept tears will frighten you.

You have traveled too fast over false ground;
Now your soul has come to take you back.

Take refuge in your senses, open up
To all the small miracles you rushed through.

Become inclined to watch the way of rain
When it falls slow and free.

Imitate the habit of twilight,
Taking time to open the well of color
That fostered the brightness of day.

Draw alongside the silence of stone
Until its calmness can claim you.
Be excessively gentle with yourself.

Stay clear of those vexed in spirit.
Learn to linger around someone of ease
Who feels they have all the time in the world.

Gradually, you will return to yourself,
Having learned a new respect for your heart
And the joy that dwells far within slow time.

                                                                    — John O’Donohue (1954 – 2008)

 

 

Are You Grateful for Clarity?

Are You Grateful for Clarity?

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“Image courtesy of Dan/ FreeDigitalPhotos.net”.

Feeling grateful has been something that I have been feeling everyday, especially in the last while. I have been practicing more mindful meditation of as late since I kept feeling the need to slow down and be more aware of things. In this type of meditation one is aware of body sensations and any emotions that arise, a great way to stay in the present moment. I’ve been asking for clarity on many levels, whereas physically I’ve been waiting to learn when I would be having cataract surgery. Since I am not yet 50 years of age, the eye doctors keep asking me what head trauma I’ve experienced; none that I can remember. After a 7 month long wait to see the surgeon I learned that the cataract in my right eye was close to being severe enough that I was on the verge of losing my license. No wonder I have been avoiding driving at night in the last months. But I was grateful that cataract surgery is a fairly simple surgery in this day and age with a good chance of success. I was scheduled for surgery in December and was thinking that sight would be a great Christmas gift. On Oct. 18, date of the last full moon and a day on which I was teaching a Reiki class, I received the message saying that there was a cancellation the next week. The shift of energy that occurred for me was tremendous with a great feeling of joy. I felt so much lighter and excited with the possibilities. 

The eye surgery went well (with a little energy help from friends) and I felt so excited during the procedure. Although my brain is still getting used to this interim vision with one eye being near sighted and the newly done eye now far sighted, I am so grateful for the clarity. I am gaining clarity of physical vision plus clearness at other levels of my life. Although I can’t wait to get my other eye done (hopefully there is another cancellation before December), I am still processing what I’ve learned. Even though I will be very dependent on reading glasses after these eye surgeries, I will be forever grateful for the gift of sight. Have a listen to my “theme song”: http://youtu.be/FscIgtDJFXg

IMG_2079IMG_2080I have also been participating in the Women Together Life Coaching Program. I continue to learn about myself and strive to reach my goals in many areas of my life. The Personal Growth Event that I recently participated in was Equine Facilitated Learning at Full Circle Ranch with The Coaching Room. Working with the energy of the horses we endeavoured to stay in the present moment, as that is how the horses exist (a reminder about mindfulness). Horses mirror our true selves and feelings. Horses are always thinking about whether they are safe, just as we humans have the need to feel safe in our environment. We had a discussion about vulnerability and how the horses are vulnerable but strong; a good lesson for us about how it is okay to be vulnerable. Definitely a lesson I am working on. Oh, and did I mention how the one horse licked my hand? In shamanic work the transfer of body fluids such as saliva give the gift of the energy of that animal so I received horse medicine. Horse traditionally brings the energy of freedom and I’ve worked with horse shamanically for many years so it was a great experience to work with horse in ordinary reality. Horse

So as I gain clarity in many aspects of my life through circumstances, meditation, life coaching and energy work I am forever grateful for the opportunities to learn and to grow. Make sure that you slow down to appreciate the nuances of life that arise.

Here’s an article that echoes some of my advice:

You Were Born To Shine

Let your light shineOver time, fear, exhaustion & shame can dim the brightest of lights, and that is why we must, at all times do what we can to keep that flame inside burning bright, choose the path of light and love, and allow our brilliance to be seen.

Fortunately, there are plenty of tools that you can use to rekindle your spark every day, and here are just a few to help you out.

  1. 1. Express your gratitude daily.

Tell the people around you that you appreciate them. Give thanks for the food you eat and the roof that you sleep under. Smile. Gratitude magnifies your feelings of goodwill, helping you stay focused on the good stuff. 

        2. Exercise often.

Sweating and moving for just 20 minutes a day has been clinically shown to improve your mood & boost your health. Try a yoga class, ride your bike around town, or go for a swim, and you’ll easily chase away the grumps. 

         3.      Meditate every morning.

Spending time in silence reconnects you with your source of self-awareness, self-assuredness & happiness. It’s also been shown to greatly reduce stress & improve communication. 

What can YOU do to shine a little brighter TODAY?

What are You Celebrating?

What are you celebrating?

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Celebrate

 

 

Everyone likes a celebration and the opportunity to show their pleasure and excitement for an event or accomplishment. Whether it is a birthday, a wedding or a graduation, all events are worth celebrating. How do you celebrate such an event? Usually gatherings with other people help mark celebrations. This week I am grateful to be able to celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary with friends and family. But celebrations don’t have to be just for milestones.

 

 

 

 

 

 “If you think positively

Sound becomes Music

Movement Becomes Dance

Smile Becomes Laughter

Mind Becomes Meditation

And Life Becomes a Celebration….” 

Do you celebrate your life daily? Do you appreciate the small things in your life? Celebrations don’t have to be big events and parties. People are able to think well of themselves, praise themselves and celebrate at any time.

”The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”

Oprah Winfrey 

“Celebrate what you want to see more of.”

Thomas J. Peters

“Stop worrying about the potholes in the road and celebrate the journey!”

Barbara Hoffman

I thought this piece was worth considering.  

“People of our time are losing the power of celebration. Instead of celebrating we seek to be amused or entertained. Celebration is an active state, an act of expressing reverence or appreciation. To be entertained is a passive state–it is to receive pleasure afforded by an amusing act or a spectacle…. Celebration is a confrontation, giving attention to the transcendent meaning of one’s actions.”
Abraham Joshua Heschel

Are you one to act in the state of celebration or one that waits to receive?

“Put yourself in a state of mind where you say to yourself, “Here is an opportunity for you to celebrate like never before, my own power, my own ability to get myself to do whatever is necessary.”

Anthony Robbins

Celebrating your life every day is about creating your own miracles.

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

Albert Einstein

“Loving ourselves creates miracles in our lives.”

Louise Hay

“Life is a celebration of awakenings, of new beginnings, and wonderful surprises that enlighten the soul.”

Cielo 

Many times I have been reminded of 4 universal practices for life.  We need to sing, dance, commune with nature and sit in sweet silence. When did we stop? When are we going to start again?

So don’t wait until you’ve reached some big milestone before you take the time to celebrate and rejoice. Create more joy in your life every day.