What is a Life Coach?

What is a Life Coach? A coach is a trained professional who has the skills that help individuals and organizations create positive changes and new possibilities. A coach helps the client define the steps that are needed to achieve both short term and long term goals. A coach listens and asks questions and the client asks him/herself more questions. And as we say in Access, asking questions is key to opening up your awareness to the possibilities.

A coach can help you define your goals, prioritize them and then set out action steps to reach those goals. But the most important part is a coach keeps you accountable. This creates the results. This goal can be a specific project or a big change in the client’s life. We help sort out the challenges and how to overcome them. Thus anyone could be working with a life coach. And those goals can be in any area: health, fitness, career, finances, relationships or spiritual, etc.

Reaching those goals does not have to be hard. Perhaps just having someone encouraging you and holding you accountable gets you moving forward. Things don’t have to be a struggle. Coaching is about empowering the individual to believe in him/herself and be in the mindset that the goal is easily obtainable. Life is all about ease and joy. Do you feel that way now?

Coaching is about reprogramming your subconscious mind to eliminate those limiting beliefs that are holding you back. Stay tuned for future workshops and talks explaining just how influential your subconscious mind is and you don’t even know how it is controlling your life. Using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to change the patterns of thinking and behaving creates permanent change and eliminates negative states.

With or Without Energy Work

And the bonus that I can offer is creating a coaching program with energy work to help further release of those limiting beliefs and thoughts and help keep your stress reduced and provide that feeling of well-being. How can it get any better than that? So Ignite the Possibilities with Wanda. https://wandadavis.ca/life-coaching/

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Take Care of Yourself This Year — Remember Self-Care

How do you plan to take care of yourself this year? This may include physical ideas like diet and exercise, but think about how you take care ofTake a break yourself emotionally and mentally too. What do you include in your schedule for self-care? First of all, yes, you must plan for it. In our busy lives we often forget about ourselves as we take care of others in our lives, whether that includes parents, children or spouse. Before we know it another day is over and we sit numbly watching television because we are too tired to do anything else and fall into bed exhausted. So schedule some self-care into the calendar with the kid activities and grocery shopping. See the picture “50 Ways to Take a Break” for some ideas to look after yourself. Self-care may also include an energy treatment, a naturopath visit or spending time with friends or reading a book.

 

We need to take care of ourselves emotionally. Don’t do things that don’t feel right as mentioned in the picture “12 Steps to Self-Care”. Also speak your mind in a positive manner so that your feelings don’t stay submerged and eat away at you. Emotions and thoughts are energy and if you don’t release the emotions that cause you harm they may cause health concerns later on. And as the old saying goes, what goes around comes around. Radiate happiness, love, gratitude and joy to continually receive. The word radiate reminds me of Jack Johnson’s song by the same name. Check out the lyrics.

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Affirmation TreeSo instead of making a resolution that may be hard to keep, perhaps make an affirmation such as those found in the affirmation tree by Paul Foreman. See his website for more mindmap ideas for happiness or relaxation. Whether you call it an affirmation or inspiration or aspiration, keep yourself in mind and remember your self-care. Enjoy some quotes about self-care and especially read the poem about why you need to take care of yourself.

 

“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”

– Lucille Ball

 

He who has health, has hope; and he who has hope, has everything.

– Arabian Proverb

“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.”

– Karl Lagerfeld

 

”Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.”

– Christopher Germer

 

A Blessing for One Who Is Exhaunsted

When the rhythm of the heart becomes hectic,
Time takes on the strain until it breaks;
Then all the unattended stress falls in
On the mind like an endless, increasing weight,

The light in the mind becomes dim.
Things you could take in your stride before
Now become laborsome events of will.

Weariness invades your spirit.
Gravity begins falling inside you,
Dragging down every bone.

The ride you never valued has gone out.
And you are marooned on unsure ground.
Something within you has closed down;
And you cannot push yourself back to life.

You have been forced to enter empty time.
The desire that drove you has relinquished.
There is nothing else to do now but rest
And patiently learned to receive the self
You have forsaken for the race of days.

At first your thinking will darken
And sadness take over like listless weather.
The flow of unwept tears will frighten you.

You have traveled too fast over false ground;
Now your soul has come to take you back.

Take refuge in your senses, open up
To all the small miracles you rushed through.

Become inclined to watch the way of rain
When it falls slow and free.

Imitate the habit of twilight,
Taking time to open the well of color
That fostered the brightness of day.

Draw alongside the silence of stone
Until its calmness can claim you.
Be excessively gentle with yourself.

Stay clear of those vexed in spirit.
Learn to linger around someone of ease
Who feels they have all the time in the world.

Gradually, you will return to yourself,
Having learned a new respect for your heart
And the joy that dwells far within slow time.

                                                                    — John O’Donohue (1954 – 2008)

 

 

Autumn is Bittersweet and Soothing for the Soul

Autumn is Bittersweet and Soothing for the Soul

Autumn is a bittersweet time for gardeners. We have celebrated the magnificent bounty from our gardens, whether that is flowers or vegetables, but now have to say goodnight to our garden as we prepare it for winter. Working in the garden is very healing for the soul and a great stress reducer. Here are top 15 tips to help you clean up your garden and put it to bed for the winter to make it ready for a prosperous following year.

  1. Do a final good weeding and remove any weeds that are going to seed.
  2. Continue to harvest vegetables such as carrots, garlic, leeks, parsnips, radishes, turnips and squash.
  3. Bring in any annual plants you plan to winter over. Keep an eye on those frost warnings.
  4. Remove any diseased and dead plant material to create healthier plants.  After perennials die back after a hard frost, cut dead material away ready for spring growth.
  5. Remember to tag any necessary plants in case you need to remember what is what.
  6. Remember to leave some plants for winter interest (think about what plants would look great with snow on them) and leave some for the birds to nestle in on a cold day.
  7. Continue to water plants is the season is dry.
  8. Fall is great time to transplant perennials.  Think about how to make your garden even better by dividing larger clumps or adding new plants.
  9. Plant new shrubs and trees. Remember to water them well.
  10. Gently till the soil to expose any insects that planned to over winter.
  11. Add a layer of compost, leaves or manure and gently till into the soil or plan on mixing in when the spring season arrives.
  12. Protect small trees or sensitive plants from drying out by wrapping in burlap or protect them from animals with wire fencing.
  13. Prune any shrubs (ones that need pruning in fall) or roses properly and mulch when necessary.
  14. Wash and store any pots and planters you plan to use next season.
  15. Take care of your tools by cleaning and sharpening them.

Last of all, once all the chores are done, sit back, relax and plan and dream about what your garden will look like next year.

What are You Celebrating?

What are you celebrating?

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Everyone likes a celebration and the opportunity to show their pleasure and excitement for an event or accomplishment. Whether it is a birthday, a wedding or a graduation, all events are worth celebrating. How do you celebrate such an event? Usually gatherings with other people help mark celebrations. This week I am grateful to be able to celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary with friends and family. But celebrations don’t have to be just for milestones.

 

 

 

 

 

 “If you think positively

Sound becomes Music

Movement Becomes Dance

Smile Becomes Laughter

Mind Becomes Meditation

And Life Becomes a Celebration….” 

Do you celebrate your life daily? Do you appreciate the small things in your life? Celebrations don’t have to be big events and parties. People are able to think well of themselves, praise themselves and celebrate at any time.

”The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”

Oprah Winfrey 

“Celebrate what you want to see more of.”

Thomas J. Peters

“Stop worrying about the potholes in the road and celebrate the journey!”

Barbara Hoffman

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“People of our time are losing the power of celebration. Instead of celebrating we seek to be amused or entertained. Celebration is an active state, an act of expressing reverence or appreciation. To be entertained is a passive state–it is to receive pleasure afforded by an amusing act or a spectacle…. Celebration is a confrontation, giving attention to the transcendent meaning of one’s actions.”
Abraham Joshua Heschel

Are you one to act in the state of celebration or one that waits to receive?

“Put yourself in a state of mind where you say to yourself, “Here is an opportunity for you to celebrate like never before, my own power, my own ability to get myself to do whatever is necessary.”

Anthony Robbins

Celebrating your life every day is about creating your own miracles.

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

Albert Einstein

“Loving ourselves creates miracles in our lives.”

Louise Hay

“Life is a celebration of awakenings, of new beginnings, and wonderful surprises that enlighten the soul.”

Cielo 

Many times I have been reminded of 4 universal practices for life.  We need to sing, dance, commune with nature and sit in sweet silence. When did we stop? When are we going to start again?

So don’t wait until you’ve reached some big milestone before you take the time to celebrate and rejoice. Create more joy in your life every day.

 

 

What Qualities Help Complete What Needs Doing?

What Qualities Help Complete What Needs Doing?

As the summer drifts by (quite often in a relaxed sort of way as people take vacations) many are still planning things to come into fruition for the fall. Perhaps tasks that were started in the spring have started to blossom, but may not be quite yet ripe for the taking. How do you keep yourself motivated to stay on track? Feel free to share your comments and ideas. Or have you arranged your work and home life so that you can really relax and enjoy the summer weather with your family and friends? Either way, one still needs to maintain a positive attitude and keep one’s goals in mind, whether those goals are personal or work-oriented. 

So what qualities or virtues help you stay focused on your goals? Let’s look at Faith first. Faith is defined as the complete trust or confidence in someone or something. Faith does not have to have a religious or spiritual connotation, but for many it does. It is the belief in something. Most importantly, one must have Faith in him or herself. Each person needs to have the confidence and belief that he or she can accomplish the goals that have been set and that also involves loving him or herself first. Of course plans can change and goals may need to be modified, but having faith in oneself is important for well-being and health. 

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

Martin Luther King Jr.

“Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.” 

Mother Teresa

“Faith is a knowledge within the heart, beyond the reach of proof.”

Khalil Gibran

Another virtue or quality that is needed is Hope. Hope is the feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. One can anticipate and visualize one’s goal in actuality. Many people may have read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. This self-help book is based on the Law of Attraction and outlines how positive thinking can bring life changing results. It is often said that the secret to The Secret is having the emotion behind the goal. Hope and desire are the first such emotions needed to be felt followed by imagining how you would feel once the goal is reached such as happiness and joy. With hope one never gives up; the path may change course, but one is always moving forward. Imagine what our world would be like if we did not have hope. 

“I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.”

Dalai Lama 

“Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.”

Joseph Addison

“Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul – and sings the tunes without the words – and never stops at all.”

Emily Dickinson

Everything that is done in the world is done by hope.”

Martin Luther

And here are the inspiring points from Anita Moorjani’s message from when I saw her speak a few months ago. Anita is author of Dying To Be Me, www.anitamoorjani.com.

  • Love yourself unconditionally.
  • Live your life fearlessly.
  • Life is a gift. Find your Joy.
  • Be yourself.

Please share what other qualities you feel are needed to reach your goals with good health. Remember to have Faith and Hope and, above else, love and be yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ways to Lead by Example at Home, Work or Play

Top 10: Ways to Lead by Example

At Home, Work or Play

by Wanda Davis

Good leaders must lead by example. Through their actions, which are aligned with what they say, they become a person others want to know and to follow. A leader is a person other people want to associate with, listen to and trust. Do you hope others think of you as a “good person”? One that they would admire, call on for some advice or one they would buy something from? Are you a leader in your family as a parent or as a caregiver for an elderly parent? How about patriotism (it is Canada Day weekend) or environmentalism or citizenship? What values do you hold true to yourself and want to portray to the world?

When leaders say one thing but do another, they erode trust, a critical element of productive leadership. You can even think of it as being a leader in your own life. How do you want to portray yourself to the world?

Here are 10 of the dozens of ways to lead by example. And when I say lead,

1. Take responsibility. Blame costs you your credibility, keeps others on the defensive and ultimately sabotages real growth.

2. Be truthful. Inaccurate representation affects everyone. Show that honesty really IS the best policy.

3. Be courageous. Walk through fire (a crisis) first. Take calculated risks that demonstrate commitment to a larger purpose. This does not have to be done alone, you can ask for help. 

4. Acknowledge failure. It makes it OK for others to do the same and defines failure as part of the process of becoming extraordinary.

5. Be persistent. Try, try again. Go over, under or around any hurdles to show that obstacles don’t define you.

6. Create solutions. Don’t dwell on problems; instead be the first to offer solutions and then ask your family, friends and associates for more.

7. Listen. Ask questions. Seek to understand. You’ll receive valuable insights and set a tone that encourages healthy dialogue.

8. Delegate liberally. Encourage an atmosphere in which people can focus on their core strengths.

9. Take care of yourself. Exercise, don’t overwork, take a break. A balanced group of people, mentally and physically, is a successful team. Model it, encourage it, support it! 

10. Roll up your sleeves. Like Alexander the Great leading his men into battle, you’ll inspire greatness amongst your peers.

“Be the Change You Want to See in the World”. Ghandi

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