What are You Hoping For?

Hoping is Not a Hopeless Endeavor

“Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.” —Anonymous

Having a healthy dose of hope can be motivating and inspiring. It keeps people focused on what’s ahead instead of what’s in the past. It can also help keep the focus on possibilities, and reframe obstacles as opportunities.

For some, however, being hopeful goes hand-in-hand with feeling naïve or foolish when things don’t work out as planned. They would rather not have hope at all if it means later disappointment.

But for others, having hope doesn’t mean living in denial of life’s difficulties; it simply reminds them there are better times ahead.

The definition of Hope is the feeling of wanting something to happen and thinking that it could happen. Any person may hope for themselves or another in a multitude of situations concerning safety or compassion to success. The key is to how to have hope when one is not sure what type of future to think about. When one is motivated and inspired to have hope, one can focus on the future and not dwell in the past.

The cultivation of hope (a work in progress for some since it is a learned skill) brings the belief that change can happen for the better and one can better accept the present circumstances.

The Benefits of Hope
Research indicates that it’s more beneficial to have hope than not. Hopeful people tend to show more resilience when faced with difficulties. They have healthier lifestyle habits and, on the whole, are more successful, personally and professionally.
According to the Mayo Clinic, having a hopeful, positive attitude has health benefits as well. These include:
Increased life span
Reduced depression
Lowered levels of distress
Increased resistance to the common cold
Greater emotional and psychological well-being
Decreased risk of death from cardiovascular disease
Improved coping skills during difficulties/stress
In addition, people with hope typically have:
Meaningful long- and short-term goals
A plan to achieve those goals
Flexibility to find alternate ways to achieve goals when faced with obstacles
Positive self-talk

In other words, hope is good for well-being.

We humans are sometimes too inventive for our own good—we can envision a future course of action along with every potential catastrophe that could occur along the way. Don’t try to control the unknown. Being aware of everything that can go wrong often makes doing nothing—in an attempt to avoid failure or pain—seem like a viable option.
Cultivating hope, on the other hand, helps activate creativity and inventiveness and prompts us to solve the predicaments we face by taking action in spite of our fears.
Hope brings with it the belief that things can change for the better. Regardless of how dire things may seem, there is potential for a positive outcome.

An older definition of Hope is that of a feeling of trust. Trust that a hopeful presence will help yourself and  others be hopeful and be the best they can be. Learn to be in the present moment.
“Only love and the power of presence heals.” Jack Schwartz

Is It Possible to Be Too Hopeful?

It could be said that optimists have a healthy dose of hope while “extreme optimists” suffer from blinding hope. They want nothing to do with bad news.

Researchers at Duke University found that extreme optimists (you could call them “high-hopers”) don’t save money, don’t pay off credit cards and don’t make long-term plans, but they are more likely to remarry if divorced.

Moderation, as usual, is the key. The researchers also found that “moderate optimists” tend to:

Work harder
Work longer hours
Make more money
Save more money
Pay off credit cards

Being a moderate high-hoper doesn’t mean keeping your head in the sand when it comes to life’s occasional unpleasant circumstances. It just means keeping a positive attitude—believing the best will happen, not the worst. It is all about the mindset!

In other words, whether you expect the best or the worst from life, chances are that’s what you’ll get (P.S. Law of Attraction). Studies seem to suggest that being hopeful is a skill that can be learned. So whether you’re an extreme optimist, an extreme pessimist or somewhere in between, there is hope for us all.

People will understand that with hope they will gain Healing, be able to Overcome obstacles, see Possibilities and be Empowered! Having Hope is a human strength.

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The Coaching Cycle: At what stage do you need help?

Whether it’s the beginning of visioning a goal or motivation or procrastination, a coach can assist you along the way. Want to try it on your own? Check out these coaching programs!

The Visioning Self-Coaching Program https://wandadavis.ca/product/visioning-self-coaching-program/.

Goal Setting Program (coming soon)

The A to Z’s to Success Program https://wandadavis.ca/product/zs-success-coaching-program/

Overcoming Procrastination Program https://wandadavis.ca/product/overcoming-procrastination/

Motivation Coaching Program https://wandadavis.ca/product/lighting-fire-sparking-inner-motivation/

Mindset Program (coming soon)

 

What is a Life Coach?

What is a Life Coach? A coach is a trained professional who has the skills that help individuals and organizations create positive changes and new possibilities. A coach helps the client define the steps that are needed to achieve both short term and long term goals. A coach listens and asks questions and the client asks him/herself more questions. And as we say in Access, asking questions is key to opening up your awareness to the possibilities.

A coach can help you define your goals, prioritize them and then set out action steps to reach those goals. But the most important part is a coach keeps you accountable. This creates the results. This goal can be a specific project or a big change in the client’s life. We help sort out the challenges and how to overcome them. Thus anyone could be working with a life coach. And those goals can be in any area: health, fitness, career, finances, relationships or spiritual, etc.

Reaching those goals does not have to be hard. Perhaps just having someone encouraging you and holding you accountable gets you moving forward. Things don’t have to be a struggle. Coaching is about empowering the individual to believe in him/herself and be in the mindset that the goal is easily obtainable. Life is all about ease and joy. Do you feel that way now?

Coaching is about reprogramming your subconscious mind to eliminate those limiting beliefs that are holding you back. Stay tuned for future workshops and talks explaining just how influential your subconscious mind is and you don’t even know how it is controlling your life. Using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to change the patterns of thinking and behaving creates permanent change and eliminates negative states.

With or Without Energy Work

And the bonus that I can offer is creating a coaching program with energy work to help further release of those limiting beliefs and thoughts and help keep your stress reduced and provide that feeling of well-being. How can it get any better than that? So Ignite the Possibilities with Wanda. https://wandadavis.ca/life-coaching/

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Take Care of Yourself This Year — Remember Self-Care

How do you plan to take care of yourself this year? This may include physical ideas like diet and exercise, but think about how you take care ofTake a break yourself emotionally and mentally too. What do you include in your schedule for self-care? First of all, yes, you must plan for it. In our busy lives we often forget about ourselves as we take care of others in our lives, whether that includes parents, children or spouse. Before we know it another day is over and we sit numbly watching television because we are too tired to do anything else and fall into bed exhausted. So schedule some self-care into the calendar with the kid activities and grocery shopping. See the picture “50 Ways to Take a Break” for some ideas to look after yourself. Self-care may also include an energy treatment, a naturopath visit or spending time with friends or reading a book.

 

We need to take care of ourselves emotionally. Don’t do things that don’t feel right as mentioned in the picture “12 Steps to Self-Care”. Also speak your mind in a positive manner so that your feelings don’t stay submerged and eat away at you. Emotions and thoughts are energy and if you don’t release the emotions that cause you harm they may cause health concerns later on. And as the old saying goes, what goes around comes around. Radiate happiness, love, gratitude and joy to continually receive. The word radiate reminds me of Jack Johnson’s song by the same name. Check out the lyrics.

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Affirmation TreeSo instead of making a resolution that may be hard to keep, perhaps make an affirmation such as those found in the affirmation tree by Paul Foreman. See his website for more mindmap ideas for happiness or relaxation. Whether you call it an affirmation or inspiration or aspiration, keep yourself in mind and remember your self-care. Enjoy some quotes about self-care and especially read the poem about why you need to take care of yourself.

 

“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”

– Lucille Ball

 

He who has health, has hope; and he who has hope, has everything.

– Arabian Proverb

“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.”

– Karl Lagerfeld

 

”Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.”

– Christopher Germer

 

A Blessing for One Who Is Exhaunsted

When the rhythm of the heart becomes hectic,
Time takes on the strain until it breaks;
Then all the unattended stress falls in
On the mind like an endless, increasing weight,

The light in the mind becomes dim.
Things you could take in your stride before
Now become laborsome events of will.

Weariness invades your spirit.
Gravity begins falling inside you,
Dragging down every bone.

The ride you never valued has gone out.
And you are marooned on unsure ground.
Something within you has closed down;
And you cannot push yourself back to life.

You have been forced to enter empty time.
The desire that drove you has relinquished.
There is nothing else to do now but rest
And patiently learned to receive the self
You have forsaken for the race of days.

At first your thinking will darken
And sadness take over like listless weather.
The flow of unwept tears will frighten you.

You have traveled too fast over false ground;
Now your soul has come to take you back.

Take refuge in your senses, open up
To all the small miracles you rushed through.

Become inclined to watch the way of rain
When it falls slow and free.

Imitate the habit of twilight,
Taking time to open the well of color
That fostered the brightness of day.

Draw alongside the silence of stone
Until its calmness can claim you.
Be excessively gentle with yourself.

Stay clear of those vexed in spirit.
Learn to linger around someone of ease
Who feels they have all the time in the world.

Gradually, you will return to yourself,
Having learned a new respect for your heart
And the joy that dwells far within slow time.

                                                                    — John O’Donohue (1954 – 2008)

 

 

Are You Grateful for Clarity?

Are You Grateful for Clarity?

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Feeling grateful has been something that I have been feeling everyday, especially in the last while. I have been practicing more mindful meditation of as late since I kept feeling the need to slow down and be more aware of things. In this type of meditation one is aware of body sensations and any emotions that arise, a great way to stay in the present moment. I’ve been asking for clarity on many levels, whereas physically I’ve been waiting to learn when I would be having cataract surgery. Since I am not yet 50 years of age, the eye doctors keep asking me what head trauma I’ve experienced; none that I can remember. After a 7 month long wait to see the surgeon I learned that the cataract in my right eye was close to being severe enough that I was on the verge of losing my license. No wonder I have been avoiding driving at night in the last months. But I was grateful that cataract surgery is a fairly simple surgery in this day and age with a good chance of success. I was scheduled for surgery in December and was thinking that sight would be a great Christmas gift. On Oct. 18, date of the last full moon and a day on which I was teaching a Reiki class, I received the message saying that there was a cancellation the next week. The shift of energy that occurred for me was tremendous with a great feeling of joy. I felt so much lighter and excited with the possibilities. 

The eye surgery went well (with a little energy help from friends) and I felt so excited during the procedure. Although my brain is still getting used to this interim vision with one eye being near sighted and the newly done eye now far sighted, I am so grateful for the clarity. I am gaining clarity of physical vision plus clearness at other levels of my life. Although I can’t wait to get my other eye done (hopefully there is another cancellation before December), I am still processing what I’ve learned. Even though I will be very dependent on reading glasses after these eye surgeries, I will be forever grateful for the gift of sight. Have a listen to my “theme song”: http://youtu.be/FscIgtDJFXg

IMG_2079IMG_2080I have also been participating in the Women Together Life Coaching Program. I continue to learn about myself and strive to reach my goals in many areas of my life. The Personal Growth Event that I recently participated in was Equine Facilitated Learning at Full Circle Ranch with The Coaching Room. Working with the energy of the horses we endeavoured to stay in the present moment, as that is how the horses exist (a reminder about mindfulness). Horses mirror our true selves and feelings. Horses are always thinking about whether they are safe, just as we humans have the need to feel safe in our environment. We had a discussion about vulnerability and how the horses are vulnerable but strong; a good lesson for us about how it is okay to be vulnerable. Definitely a lesson I am working on. Oh, and did I mention how the one horse licked my hand? In shamanic work the transfer of body fluids such as saliva give the gift of the energy of that animal so I received horse medicine. Horse traditionally brings the energy of freedom and I’ve worked with horse shamanically for many years so it was a great experience to work with horse in ordinary reality. Horse

So as I gain clarity in many aspects of my life through circumstances, meditation, life coaching and energy work I am forever grateful for the opportunities to learn and to grow. Make sure that you slow down to appreciate the nuances of life that arise.

Here’s an article that echoes some of my advice:

You Were Born To Shine

Let your light shineOver time, fear, exhaustion & shame can dim the brightest of lights, and that is why we must, at all times do what we can to keep that flame inside burning bright, choose the path of light and love, and allow our brilliance to be seen.

Fortunately, there are plenty of tools that you can use to rekindle your spark every day, and here are just a few to help you out.

  1. 1. Express your gratitude daily.

Tell the people around you that you appreciate them. Give thanks for the food you eat and the roof that you sleep under. Smile. Gratitude magnifies your feelings of goodwill, helping you stay focused on the good stuff. 

        2. Exercise often.

Sweating and moving for just 20 minutes a day has been clinically shown to improve your mood & boost your health. Try a yoga class, ride your bike around town, or go for a swim, and you’ll easily chase away the grumps. 

         3.      Meditate every morning.

Spending time in silence reconnects you with your source of self-awareness, self-assuredness & happiness. It’s also been shown to greatly reduce stress & improve communication. 

What can YOU do to shine a little brighter TODAY?

Autumn is Bittersweet and Soothing for the Soul

Autumn is Bittersweet and Soothing for the Soul

Autumn is a bittersweet time for gardeners. We have celebrated the magnificent bounty from our gardens, whether that is flowers or vegetables, but now have to say goodnight to our garden as we prepare it for winter. Working in the garden is very healing for the soul and a great stress reducer. Here are top 15 tips to help you clean up your garden and put it to bed for the winter to make it ready for a prosperous following year.

  1. Do a final good weeding and remove any weeds that are going to seed.
  2. Continue to harvest vegetables such as carrots, garlic, leeks, parsnips, radishes, turnips and squash.
  3. Bring in any annual plants you plan to winter over. Keep an eye on those frost warnings.
  4. Remove any diseased and dead plant material to create healthier plants.  After perennials die back after a hard frost, cut dead material away ready for spring growth.
  5. Remember to tag any necessary plants in case you need to remember what is what.
  6. Remember to leave some plants for winter interest (think about what plants would look great with snow on them) and leave some for the birds to nestle in on a cold day.
  7. Continue to water plants is the season is dry.
  8. Fall is great time to transplant perennials.  Think about how to make your garden even better by dividing larger clumps or adding new plants.
  9. Plant new shrubs and trees. Remember to water them well.
  10. Gently till the soil to expose any insects that planned to over winter.
  11. Add a layer of compost, leaves or manure and gently till into the soil or plan on mixing in when the spring season arrives.
  12. Protect small trees or sensitive plants from drying out by wrapping in burlap or protect them from animals with wire fencing.
  13. Prune any shrubs (ones that need pruning in fall) or roses properly and mulch when necessary.
  14. Wash and store any pots and planters you plan to use next season.
  15. Take care of your tools by cleaning and sharpening them.

Last of all, once all the chores are done, sit back, relax and plan and dream about what your garden will look like next year.

What Qualities Help Complete What Needs Doing?

What Qualities Help Complete What Needs Doing?

As the summer drifts by (quite often in a relaxed sort of way as people take vacations) many are still planning things to come into fruition for the fall. Perhaps tasks that were started in the spring have started to blossom, but may not be quite yet ripe for the taking. How do you keep yourself motivated to stay on track? Feel free to share your comments and ideas. Or have you arranged your work and home life so that you can really relax and enjoy the summer weather with your family and friends? Either way, one still needs to maintain a positive attitude and keep one’s goals in mind, whether those goals are personal or work-oriented. 

So what qualities or virtues help you stay focused on your goals? Let’s look at Faith first. Faith is defined as the complete trust or confidence in someone or something. Faith does not have to have a religious or spiritual connotation, but for many it does. It is the belief in something. Most importantly, one must have Faith in him or herself. Each person needs to have the confidence and belief that he or she can accomplish the goals that have been set and that also involves loving him or herself first. Of course plans can change and goals may need to be modified, but having faith in oneself is important for well-being and health. 

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

Martin Luther King Jr.

“Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.” 

Mother Teresa

“Faith is a knowledge within the heart, beyond the reach of proof.”

Khalil Gibran

Another virtue or quality that is needed is Hope. Hope is the feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. One can anticipate and visualize one’s goal in actuality. Many people may have read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. This self-help book is based on the Law of Attraction and outlines how positive thinking can bring life changing results. It is often said that the secret to The Secret is having the emotion behind the goal. Hope and desire are the first such emotions needed to be felt followed by imagining how you would feel once the goal is reached such as happiness and joy. With hope one never gives up; the path may change course, but one is always moving forward. Imagine what our world would be like if we did not have hope. 

“I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.”

Dalai Lama 

“Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.”

Joseph Addison

“Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul – and sings the tunes without the words – and never stops at all.”

Emily Dickinson

Everything that is done in the world is done by hope.”

Martin Luther

And here are the inspiring points from Anita Moorjani’s message from when I saw her speak a few months ago. Anita is author of Dying To Be Me, www.anitamoorjani.com.

  • Love yourself unconditionally.
  • Live your life fearlessly.
  • Life is a gift. Find your Joy.
  • Be yourself.

Please share what other qualities you feel are needed to reach your goals with good health. Remember to have Faith and Hope and, above else, love and be yourself.