Nurturing Your Resilience
There’s no doubt about it – from time to time, life will knock you down. And as you’ve probably heard a hundred times, the ability to get back up determines your ability to succeed. But what happens when the fight has gone out of you, and you can’t quite find the strength to bounce back? That’s when your nurturer comes into play. Though our culture likes to think of resilience as standing strong no matter what, the truth is that resilience can be an uncomfortable process of gathering together the tattered remnants of yesterday’s misfortune to rise again today with great tenderness, care and determination.
Here are 3 simple ways to cultivate your own ability to bounce back, no matter what.
- Connect With Other People
We need each other. When you make time to build and maintain your network by sending texts to your loved ones, calls to your friends, and fostering relationships with colleagues, you build a support network that will be there to help you through the hardest times. As you support them and they support you, the bond between you grows, and you’re rewarded with the ability to face challenges with an army of allies at your back. Alone, we fall. But together, we get back up and become unstoppable. Connecting by video or phone call helps.
- Maintain a Simple, Daily Routine
Routines help you maintain momentum and stay the course despite disruptions. Routines don’t have to be difficult or boring. In fact, the best routines are fun, simple and self-nurturing. For some people it’s doing a few simple stretches every morning. For others it’s journaling over coffee. Whatever your routine entails, make sure that it’s something that you can do (almost) every day, before the day gets under way. That way, no matter what hurdles you may face, you can reset again each day to keep your resilience strong.
- Take Stock Your Strengths
Remember who you are – you are a mighty force of nature. Pull out your notebook and chronicle all the times you’ve risen from defeat, found the right words, helped someone else, or finished what you started. You don’t have to wait until you’re knocked down or facing a difficulty to do this. Inventory your strengths regularly, and remember all the tools and resources you need are right inside of you. They are unlimited – they just may need you to shine a little light on them.
When life knocks us down, we don’t always spring right back to our feet…and that’s okay. Utilize these tips to get you back on course and headed in the right direction.